Where’s your smile?

Hi lovelies, a beautiful day to you! Well, you know I can’t end there so I’m gonna ask, “How are you feeling?” Had to ask because I wish someone would ask me too. We all need that kinda care.
So if you’re feeling good, live it up!
If you’re feeling excited, good for you!
If you’re feeling optimistic, just perfect! Everyone needs that.
Now if you’re feeling down, I’m gonna ask, “Why?” You might have to take a minute to think of why but I don’t. Feeling like I’m at the lowest of lows right now in my life and I could give you a tonne of reasons why I should be feeling down but then again, I’m asking myself that same question, “Why?”
So I don’t know your reasons, crap! I have no idea why you’re feeling down and out. Feeling may be justified but that’s part of the reason I’m here for you. Let’s do the exercise together. I’m on it already but feel free to join.
Take a minute and drop all the negative reasons, we’re picking up the positives starting from the simplest you can think of. There are lots of positives by the way if you would just look.

We both have sight, you can totally see and read this so smile.
We have life and so hope, else you wouldn’t still be reading so smile.
You’ve had your meal for the time of day, there are people starving and definitely not by choice so go on, smile.
This list could go on and on but I trust you have reasons I’m unaware of, so go on and make that list. Share with us here if you may because some may not realise it’s a reason worth smiling for. The point of the exercise is to keep going until you’re wearing that beautiful smile of yours. Mine is still getting broader and here’s hoping you’ll find yours, beautiful and broad.

Smile, it’s free therapy.

-Douglas Horton

Do have a very cheerful day!

How Choosing To Forgive Totally Set Me Free!

Hi everyone! Apologies for the break in delivering those words you need to make your golden strides. I’m truly sorry and I must say, you have to forgive me because today, we’re going to learn to practice FORGIVENESS. So yes, you can start by forgiving me. Don’t point any fingers, it’s a start.

Before I go on, allow me share something one of my favourite authors said. Well get ready to forgive me again if I don’t say it just right. Stormie Omartian said, “Forgiving someone doesn’t make them right, it makes you free.” And I believe it. I know you’ve probably heard this before, and maybe in entirely different words but it’s true so I’m bringing it to you again.

Now for those wondering why I’m emphasizing on something that’s almost certain you’ve heard before, lemme help make it clear. This post is about forgiveness and how it sure does free you. It’s not meant to make you believe it any more than you already do but to let you know it is what it is. I know because I’m going to be using a really personal experience.

I love sharing stories with you so here goes mine. The first time I ever left home for longer than two whole weeks, it was for a specific study and I had to stay with my elder sister. Before we go on though, I should tell you she was an idol. My idol. I literally adored her. I imitated almost everything about her. And believe me, that’s not even doing justice to how we really were. I told her everything and she shared pretty much with me too.

Well that took a turn and if you’re guessing already what might have happened, keep trying.

… and then all that adoration seemed to be turning to rage. And anger. And bitterness towards…

To be continued.

THE FACELIFT EVERYONE NEEDS!

Hi beautiful people! Hope you are staying happy. A happy life after all is what everybody deserves. I for one, I love to see a happy face everywhere I turn. As much as we try to be the happy face that makes another person happy, it’s not always the case. Today for instance, I didn’t wake up so happy. Come to think of it, I couldn’t place my mood on any bad event. I just was not happy. Like it’s said, I probably woke up on the wrong side of my bed.
Things took a different turn sometime around noon. Or better put, my lips took an upward turn and my face got the lift it so needed. What happened you may be wondering, I was paid a very pleasant compliment. I met a friend and he mentioned how beautiful my eyes were. Of course I’ve been told more times than I can count that my eyes are beautiful. Did I think about it before someone mentioned it again? No, I didn’t. That’s to say a lot of people around us forget how beautiful they are, what number of things about themselves they love, and so much more that could make them wear a smile easily.
Now this post is just about that… that smile! It is the perfect facelift you and everyone around you needs.
I didn’t need a compliment to remind me of that. You don’t either. We should all appreciate our bodies more. We are alive and kicking and that is something in itself. Granted, there will be days when this kinda smile won’t come easily. Not to worry, I have a formula that works. I call it my “mirror therapy”. Of all days, it had to be a day I needed it the most I didn’t use it. Well, won’t happen again.
So here’s how it works. You go to your mirror and stand right in front of it and smile at yourself. It works! If you’re so pissed or vexed or in too much of a bad mood, then pick one of your fav body features and tell your mirror self how wonderful it is. What I’m saying here is, PAY YOURSELF A COMPLIMENT. Personally, the compliment makes me smile. Sometimes, it’s just the silliness of it that gives me the facelift I so need. Now if you find this too preposterous, then allow yourself out of your own shell for a minute and pay someone else a compliment. That means intentionally looking for something beautiful about the person and voicing it. This simple act should put a smile on their face and well, you get to smile to and that’s a start.
By simply doing this, you just don’t get the facelift you so need, you also be the reason another person gets theirs. Now go on and carry out this non-surgical procedure on as many people as you can. It will do them good as much as it will do you. Cheers!

A Whole Day Of Selfless Deeds Can Do You Good

Hi everyone! I’ve been so busy with my many other commitments that I’ve not had the time to post anything new. Honest apologies for that. This is not my regular kind of post but as always, I just wanna share with you.
So today, I barely did anything for myself. I mean, barely even found the time to eat. I can totally say most of what I did today was for everyone but me. At some point it was tiring, can admit that much, but I really did not feel as tired as I thought I would at the end of the day. If anything, I felt refreshed. Like I could think clearly and see all the bits of everything that was earlier blurry.
All I’m trying to say here is, sometimes, we need to take time out from our own issues and help someone else out. Do stuff for another person that does not benefit you directly in any way. A friend of mine once said, when you think your problems have become overwhelming, keep them aside and help someone else out of their own problem. He said this selfless act of solving another person’s problem will not only do your mind good but just might help you see how you can solve yours.
Granted, I’ve got issues to deal with, bills to pay, let’s just say stuff to keep my mind on me. But today, I left it all and focused on everyone but myself. It felt good. I have to warn you though, that it felt good at the end of the day. No, not when I was so hungry and wanted to abandon the task at hand. Or when I was feeling exhausted and wanted the comfort of my bed. Looking at the people that needed my help, I kept going and at the end of the day I felt good.
So this is more like a challenge for you. Pick a day. A whole day to do nothing beneficial to you directly, just for every other person. There’s always someone around you that needs your help. In whatever form you can give it. It could be just your company, or advice, or a true helping hand. It could be just a joke to help them note again that all hope is not lost. It could be something that’s really simple or something that completely takes you out of your way.
Go ahead and do it. It is rewarding. Not outwardly, but it sure is. I know because no act of kindness is ever wasted. Remember, it could be something really simple. So go on. Pick a day. Do it cheerfully. The way you give is more important than what you give.

Talk or Not? When and How?

Hi everyone! I’m feeling a little guilty with this particular post because as I write it, can’t help but think I’m about to preach what I still have difficulty putting into practice. The fact that I don’t practice it as often as I’d love to doesn’t make it any less right or impossible. A lot of people may find it hard to do too but hey guess what, you are not alone there. So here goes our post for the day – OPEN UP!
Sometimes I cannot believe how easy it is for some people to just come right out and spill their guts. Other times though, I am just totally amazed at how some people expect you to read their minds. Now this second bit is just not possible. Granted, some couples have been married so long they totally understand each other and other times, they just have body language they have come to understand. When you hang around these kinda couples for a bit, it seems as though they can read each other’s minds but really, they can’t. So that brings us back to it, you just have to open up.
As with everything, there is doing it excessively and then there is not doing it enough. We should always find a balance and by that I mean timing. When telling people how we feel, we need to know when to say what and how to say it. Sometimes, it’s not what you say but how you say it, your tone at the moment, your body language, and the look you have in your eyes, all of that is communication. People will hear what you say and see what your body is saying. Putting both together will either make the person feel better or worse and we want better.
For those who will spill their guts whenever and wherever, control is what they need to learn. For those who hold back all the time and expect people around them to become mind readers, it’s one step at a time. An author I love refers to these different types of people as Babbling Brook and Dead Sea. I’m telling you right now, don’t force it else you’ll feel frustrated. You can’t go from Dead Sea to Babbling Brook or the other way around. No one should. What we do need however, is a balance.
I’m sure you can tell what category you belong to or if you have it alright already. Thumbs up to those who do. I don’t and this post is for me as much as it is for you. How about we encourage each other, share our progress and get better together. Those who have difficulty explaining how they feel to their loved ones, remember it’s one step at a time. As for the Babbling Brooks, you should do more listening than talking. You can start today!

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Expect more on this topic because we can totally avoid a whole lot of problems when we get the hang of it.