How Choosing To Forgive Totally Set Me Free!

Hi everyone! Apologies for the break in delivering those words you need to make your golden strides. I’m truly sorry and I must say, you have to forgive me because today, we’re going to learn to practice FORGIVENESS. So yes, you can start by forgiving me. Don’t point any fingers, it’s a start.

Before I go on, allow me share something one of my favourite authors said. Well get ready to forgive me again if I don’t say it just right. Stormie Omartian said, “Forgiving someone doesn’t make them right, it makes you free.” And I believe it. I know you’ve probably heard this before, and maybe in entirely different words but it’s true so I’m bringing it to you again.

Now for those wondering why I’m emphasizing on something that’s almost certain you’ve heard before, lemme help make it clear. This post is about forgiveness and how it sure does free you. It’s not meant to make you believe it any more than you already do but to let you know it is what it is. I know because I’m going to be using a really personal experience.

I love sharing stories with you so here goes mine. The first time I ever left home for longer than two whole weeks, it was for a specific study and I had to stay with my elder sister. Before we go on though, I should tell you she was an idol. My idol. I literally adored her. I imitated almost everything about her. And believe me, that’s not even doing justice to how we really were. I told her everything and she shared pretty much with me too.

Well that took a turn and if you’re guessing already what might have happened, keep trying.

… and then all that adoration seemed to be turning to rage. And anger. And bitterness towards…

To be continued.

Fondest memories

Hi everyone! We all know our family is the best link we have to our past and no, I’m not talking ‘ugly past’ here, I’m talking about fond memories. Our fondest memories as kids, things we did while growing up, the things we enjoyed, games we played, the friends we cherished, the list could go on and on but I know we got the picture already. Now no one but family can bring it all back or tell it just best, so yes, my point is this- keep family close!
My kid brother is just 11 years old and he sure remembers the name Angel from his nursery school days but he doesn’t remember how much he used to talk about her. Now I can’t tell you how much laughter I get out of him just reminding him of it. Or is it the funny AIT song he used to love as a kid and danced to? He doesn’t even believe it right now that he loved that song but it sure as hell still makes him laugh so hard. We always have fun bringing these old memories back and so I’ll say it again- keep family close! They bring the best memories back.
Speaking of best memories and those to keep close, do you remember your friends from childhood? Sometimes adults forget they were once kids and how they had that special clique of friends. You know the ones. Those friends mummy had a hard time getting you to leave for the day or just a while to come have dinner or have a bath? Sure we remember. Well, they were the ones you couldn’t go a day without playing with. So I get that we are now adults and have work and don’t forget varying interests now but wouldn’t a good laugh do your body and mind good right now? Yes, you saw where I was driving to. When last did you hear from them? True, you don’t have their contact but have you tried finding them on Facebook? What you waiting for? Go ahead, bring back the memories, find an old friend, ring up a family member, put a smile on someone’s face and you’ll get one too, make their day- let’s go reminiscing!

Sharing

I come from a big family and it is so much fun. I have six siblings and what’s even more fun is that I’m right in the middle. Sharing stuff kinda comes naturally to you if you have such a big family or at least it does to me as with every member of my family. As important as sharing is, not everything is meant to be shared. I personally encourage sharing and teaching little kids to learn to share but please let us always remember personal items such as toothbrushes and the likes are better off being yours and yours alone. As an adult though, it does not hurt to buy one for a person who does not have, that is also sharing.

Parents know exactly when to start teaching their kids to share and that is such a wonderful thing. Some others do not see why they should put in the effort but it is necessary if you want your child to make freiends and get along well when they eventually start school. Sharing is vital for children to play cooperatively and you really don’t want your little boy or girl to be the one other kids won’t play with because he won’t pass the ball or get off the swing.

Now you get the picture. So if it does not come naturally to them, teach them to learn to share. This would not be complete if I do not include that children often take their cues from what they see their parents doing. That is the best way to teach your children. When you model good sharing in everyday family life, you give your children a great example to follow. For the child who does not enjoy sharing so much, be sure to always comment and praise them when they do share nicely. This will encourage them to share some more.

Love is cheering and sharing and compassion and giving and receiving.
Love is an action thing more than a word thing that brings comfort
or joy or relief to anyone or anything.
-Ziggy Marley

Sharing does not have to be difficult. A good place to start would be during meals, from learning to pass the bowl to sharing a bed with a sibling. There are numerous ways we can share at home and as a family. Happiness should be shared, just as pain and loss too. The old adage says, “A problem shared is half-solved”. By sharing a problem, you give the other person a chance to share their wisdom by helping to proffer a solution. Remember, it’s all about giving and that still remains one of the best ways to show love. Have you had a kindness shown today? Have you been sharing enough lately? Don’t forget that sharing is a basic component of human interactions and is largely responsible for strengthening family ties. What special moments have you shared with family lately? If none, create one.