Hi everyone! I’m feeling a little guilty with this particular post because as I write it, can’t help but think I’m about to preach what I still have difficulty putting into practice. The fact that I don’t practice it as often as I’d love to doesn’t make it any less right or impossible. A lot of people may find it hard to do too but hey guess what, you are not alone there. So here goes our post for the day – OPEN UP!
Sometimes I cannot believe how easy it is for some people to just come right out and spill their guts. Other times though, I am just totally amazed at how some people expect you to read their minds. Now this second bit is just not possible. Granted, some couples have been married so long they totally understand each other and other times, they just have body language they have come to understand. When you hang around these kinda couples for a bit, it seems as though they can read each other’s minds but really, they can’t. So that brings us back to it, you just have to open up.
As with everything, there is doing it excessively and then there is not doing it enough. We should always find a balance and by that I mean timing. When telling people how we feel, we need to know when to say what and how to say it. Sometimes, it’s not what you say but how you say it, your tone at the moment, your body language, and the look you have in your eyes, all of that is communication. People will hear what you say and see what your body is saying. Putting both together will either make the person feel better or worse and we want better.
For those who will spill their guts whenever and wherever, control is what they need to learn. For those who hold back all the time and expect people around them to become mind readers, it’s one step at a time. An author I love refers to these different types of people as Babbling Brook and Dead Sea. I’m telling you right now, don’t force it else you’ll feel frustrated. You can’t go from Dead Sea to Babbling Brook or the other way around. No one should. What we do need however, is a balance.
I’m sure you can tell what category you belong to or if you have it alright already. Thumbs up to those who do. I don’t and this post is for me as much as it is for you. How about we encourage each other, share our progress and get better together. Those who have difficulty explaining how they feel to their loved ones, remember it’s one step at a time. As for the Babbling Brooks, you should do more listening than talking. You can start today!
Expect more on this topic because we can totally avoid a whole lot of problems when we get the hang of it.